Your first interaction with Graham would normally take place over the telephone to establish the basics of when and where the wedding is to take place and importantly the level of Public speaking experience.
Followed by a couple of hours of exploring the internet and You Tube for inspiration and ideas. These original notes generated then form the basis of the traditional speech which the two of you will work on via telephone and email over a couple of weeks.
Once a reasonable script is established you would meet and refine it face to face and begin talking about the various techniques that can be used to calm nerves (relax), to be really confident and memorable. The memorable bit is where Graham really excels – working together to find something to say or do during the speech that will cause the audience to enjoy and remember the speech for all right reasons. Something that effects all the senses. It is usually visual and brings the spoken words to life. This will normally be an object from someone’s past or present life that ties in with one of the stories told.
Here are a couple of examples of adding that special something extra!:
Recently a Father of the Bride told a story about his daughter and Son-in-law who were on a pre wedding trip to a national park over in California and had an encounter with a Brown Bear but made it amusing. He went out and bought a stuffed Brown bear which was produced during the speech.
Another great example …
For a recent wedding a shop window Mannequin was hired and dressed up to resemble the Groom with novelty slippers (Scubby Doo), a crash helmet and dressing gown with a pair of very narrow sided swimming trunks underneath – this all tied in with photo graphs and the words from the speech. Enlarged photographs on hard back went down extremely well – not overly embarrassing, just enough to add a bit of humour to the speech.
What is really great about the visual material is that it can then be left out on display for the remainder of the celebration while the guests discuss the story. The overall effect is that people talk about it on Twitter and Facebook for weeks, months and hopefully years and even at the Silver Wedding Anniversary.
(please make sure to let Graham know that you found out about him on the Dash of Sparkle Blog!)